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9 Things to Stop Doing During Hard Times

1. Hiding from the truth.
Most people, at the first sign of distress, would rather deny the hard truth than face it. But the truth does not cease to exist when it is ignored. When you try to ignore it, you will find yourself living a lie every day as the truth haunts your thoughts every night. Don’t do this to yourself. Face the facts. You simply can’t get away from your truth by moving dishonestly from one place to the next.

The truth will set you free, but first it may tick you off for a while, and that’s OK. It’s always better to be hurt by the truth than comforted by a lie. Because the truth hurts only once and then gradually fades, but a lie hurts just as bad every single time you remember you’re living it.

2. Gripping tight to the fantasy of a pain-free life.
Pain is a part of life, and life’s pains have many shapes and sizes.

There’s the cold feet pain of moving on ‒ graduating, taking the next step, walking away from the familiar and into the unknown. There’s the sharp growing pains of trial and error, of failing as you learn the best way forward. There’s the immense, dizzying pain of life slapping you in the face when everything you thought you knew wasn’t true, or everything you had planned for falls through.

There are the more ambiguous aches and pains of success, when you actually get what you had hoped for, but then realize that it’s not quite what you had envisioned. And then, from time to time, there are the warm, tingling pains you feel when you realize that you are standing in a moment of sweet perfection, a priceless instant of achievement or happiness which you know cannot possibly last, and yet will remain with you forever.

Even though so many folks forget, pain is actually a good thing. It means you’re breathing, and trying, and interacting with the endless possibilities in this world. Pain is for the living only; it’s worth fully accepting and dealing with while you still have a chance. 

3. Revisiting the past over and over in your mind.
Sadly, people all over the world are continuously telling their one dramatic story and how their entire life has turned into getting over this one event from the past. Now, every day of their lives are more about something that no longer exists, rather than the real life experiences waiting for them in the present.

We are products of our past, but we don’t have to be prisoners of it. You become a prisoner when you cling to what no longer exists. If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello. It may be hard, but you have to let go. Cling no more! Realize that the past is like a foreign country – they do things differently there. And “they” have nothing to do with YOU RIGHT NOW.

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10 Painfully Obvious Truths Everyone Forgets Too Soon

1. The average human life is relatively short.
We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step. You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself off balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to the present moment and how the world really is.

LIVE your life TODAY! Don’t ignore death, but don’t be afraid of it either. Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action. Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive. Be bold. Be courageous. Be scared to death, and then take the next step anyway.

2. You will only ever live the life you create for yourself.
Your life is yours alone. Others can try to persuade you, but they can’t decide for you. They can walk with you, but not in your shoes. So make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires, and don’t be scared to switch paths or pave a new one when it makes sense.

Remember, it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t. Be productive and patient. And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in. This is your life, and it is made up entirely of your choices. May your actions speak louder than your words. May your life preach louder than your lips. May your success be your noise in the end.

And if life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it. Even if you have no idea where you’re going to land, be brave enough to step up to the edge of the unknown, and listen to your heart. 

3. Being busy does NOT mean being productive.
Busyness isn’t a virtue, nor is it something to respect. Though we all have seasons of crazy schedules, very few of us have a legitimate need to be busy ALL the time. We simply don’t know how to live within our means, prioritize properly, and say no when we should.

Being busy rarely equates to productivity these days. Just take a quick look around. Busy people outnumber productive people by a wide margin. Busy people are rushing all over the place, and running late half of the time. They’re heading to work, conferences, meetings, social engagements, etc. They barely have enough free time for family get-togethers and they rarely get enough sleep. Yet, emails are shooting out of their smart phones like machine gun bullets, and their day planners are jammed to the brim with obligations. Their busy schedule gives them an elevated sense of importance. But it’s all an illusion. They’re like hamsters running on a wheel.

Though being busy can make us feel more alive than anything else for a moment, the sensation is not sustainable long term. We will inevitably, whether tomorrow or on our deathbed, come to wish that we spent less time in the buzz of busyness and more time actually living a purposeful life.

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How to Catch a Cheating Partner

Changing Behavior 

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Do you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you? Here are several ways you can get the proof you need to know the truth!

First of all, there are many signs that indicate that a spouse may be cheating, the biggest of which is a change in behavior. Some signs to look out for are:

  • Staying late at work often
  • Change in appearance, usually for the better
  • Distancing themselves from you
  • Disinterest in sex
  • Increasing hostility

More Loving 

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In rare occasions, an odd thing happens with cheaters and they actually begin to act more loving towards their spouse. Sometimes it is out of guilt and sometimes it is in an effort to deflect suspicion. Whatever the reason, if you feel your spouse may be cheating, don’t be thrown off the scent if they suddenly start buying you gifts and showering you with compliments. That may just be another sign of guilt, not innocence.

Don’t Act Suspicious 

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If you truly suspect your spouse of cheating, the first thing you need to do is not act suspicious until you are ready to confront them. If you start acting suspicious, you will alert them to the fact that you are onto them and they will start to get sneakier and hide their activity better and it will be harder to catch them in the act. So, as hard as it will be, do your best to act as if everything is completely normal.

Baby Monitor 

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If your spouse is constantly taking calls in another room and saying they are for work or a friend is having problems, but then they are conspicuously whispering, you can try to listen in with a hidden baby monitor. This is easier of course if you have a baby in the house but even if you don’t you can buy one and hide one in the room they usually go to. Just be sure to disguise it well so it isn’t seen and test it to make sure it picks up low sounds.

Hidden Recorder

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Another way to listen in to your spouses secret phone conversations is to buy an audio recorder. They even make some that are sound activated. That way you will have actual evidence to show them rather than just your word.

You could also install a hidden camera if you think they are bringing someone to the house for illicit activities while you are away. They make hidden cameras that are quite small and easy to hide and/or look like normal things that would be in a room.

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10 Things You Can Do With Coca-Cola

Defrosting A Windshield

Tired of scraping off that pesky ice from your windshield during winter? Simply pour a can of Regular Coke over it and wait. You’ll be amazed!

Jellyfish Sting 

Have you ever heard that the only way to soothe a jellyfish sting is to pee on it? This is not only gross, but untrue. Instead, pour some Coca-Cola over the sting. The relief will be almost instantaneous.

Window Cleaner 

Coca-Cola contains citric acid, which makes it the perfect glass and window cleaner. No more harsh chemicals, just pour Coke over your windows and wipe them down with a moistened cloth.

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7 things happy people do eagerly all the time

1) They grab opportunities

This is done without too much thinking.

The thing is, it’s an opportunity. It’s meant to be grabbed. Happy people take them and accept whatever results that come. It doesn’t matter if it’s good or bad, because they know they gave it a shot and that’s most important.

They are happy because they can look back knowing no stone was left unturned.

2) They celebrate

I think it’s kind of sad that a lot of people push aside celebrations, calling their birthdays “just another day” or Christmas a tired holiday where they have to spend money on others.

Happy people take it as chance to celebrate. It’s a reason to live it up and have fun.

Honestly, if you can’t be happy even on specially selected occasions or festivals, then how do you think you can be happy on any normal given day?

Celebrate whenever you can. No one else will do it for you.

3) They sleep

Another sad thing. People take it as a norm that sleeping isn’t an entitlement any more or that one isn’t allowed to sleep much if they want success.

I get it. We all have to work or we want to hustle and be as productive as possible, but sleep is a necessity in life! You absolutely need to recharge and rest up to well, live.

And if you aren’t getting enough sleep, you aren’t going to be happy since you lack energy altogether. So sleep. Your body wants to be happy too. Don’t belittle sleep.

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