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4 Things You Must Give Up to Move Forward

1. First and foremost, give up the excuses you keep reciting to yourself.
Because all the excuses and explanations in the world won’t do you any good. They won’t add any value to your life or improve the quality of it by even the slightest margin. To fulfill your calling and get where you wish to go in life requires more than just thinking and talking. These feats require focused and sustained action. And the good news is, you’re perfectly capable of taking whatever action is necessary. You just have to choose to actually do it.

No one else can succeed for you on your behalf. The life you live is the life you build for yourself. There are so many possibilities to choose from, and so many opportunities for you to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Now is the moment to actually step forward.

Sooner or later, one way or the other, you will come to realize that it’s not what you lose along the way that counts; it’s what you do with what you still have. When you let go of the past, forgive what needs forgiving, and move forward, you in no way change the past, you change the future.

2. Once you’re over the excuses, give up the idea that you don’t have what it takes.
You do have exactly what it takes. Will it be easy? Absolutely not! Nobody is going to blindside you and hit you as hard as life will. Sometimes life will beat you to the ground, and keep you there if you let it. But it’s not about how hard life can hit you; it’s about how hard you can be hit and continue to move forward. That’s what true strength is. And that’s what winning the game of life is all about. So keep going.

In the end, all the small things make a big difference. Every step is crucial. Life isn’t about a single moment of great triumph and attainment. It’s about the trials and errors that slowly get you there – the blood, the sweat, the tears, and the small, inconsequential things you do on a day-to-day basis. It all matters in the end – every step, every regret, every decision, and every affliction.

The seemingly useless happenings add up to something. The minimum wage job you had in high school. The evenings you spent socializing with coworkers you never see anymore. The hours you spent writing thoughts on a personal blog that no one reads. Contemplations about elaborate future plans that never came to be. All those lonely nights spent reading novels and news columns and comics strips and fashion magazines and questioning your own principles on life and sex and religion and whether or not you’re good enough just the way you are.

All of this has strengthened you. All of this has led you to every success you’ve ever had. All of this has made you who you are today. And all of this proves that you have the strength to deal with the challenges in front of you. 

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100 English Words Commonly Mispronounced by Filipinos

Pronunciation guide:

ei or EI – Examples: bale = “beil”; whale = “hweil”

æ or Æ – Example: ban = “bæn”

ee or EE – Example: be = “bee”

igh or IGH – Example: tie = “tigh”

i or I – Examples: tip = “tip”

oh or OH – Examples: code = “cohd”; soul = “sohl”; bowl = “bohl”

o or O – Examples: law = “lo”; order = “OR dur”; chocolate = “CHOK lit”

au or AU – Example: out = “aut”

yoo or YOO – Example: duty = “DYOO ti”

oo or O – Example: rule = “rool”

u or U – Example: book = “buk”

oo or OO – Example: moon = “moon”

ur or UR – Example: curve = “kurv”

th or TH – Example: thick or “thik”

Unaccented vowel – uh – Example: fistula = “FISH chuh luh”

zh or ZH – Example: measure = “MEZH ur”

1. abalone. “æb’ uh LOH nee” (not “AH buh lohn”). A delicious seafood. 

2. accessory. “æk SES uh ree” (not “æk ses SOH ree”). Subordinate part.

3. acknowledge. “æk NAH lij” (not “æk NOH lej”). Admit; give credit to.

4. acoustic. “uh KOOS tik” (not “uh KOHS tik”). Pertaining to hearing.

5. admirable. “ÆD muhr uh buhl” (not “æd MIR uh buhl”). Worthy of admiration. 

6. adolescence. “ad’l ES ens” pronounced minus the “o” (not “uh DOL luh sens”). Period between youth and maturity.

7. advocacy. “ÆD vuh kuh see” (not “uhd VO kuh see”). Active support, especially for a cause.

8. affidavit. “æf i DEI vit” (not “æf i DÆ vit”). A sworn statement in writing.

9. allegedly. “uh LEJ id lee” (not “uh LEJD lee”). Supposedly.

10. almond. “ÆM uhnd” (not “ÆL muhnd”). A delicious nut.

11. alms. “ahmz” (You don’t pronounce the “l”). Money or goods given in charity.

12. alumnae. “uh LAHM nee” (not “uh LAHM nei”). Feminine of alumnus. 

13. amoebiasis. “æm’ uh BIGH uh sis” (not “uh mib YAH sis”). Infection caused by the amoeba Entamoeba histolytica.

14. analgesic. “æn uhl JEE zik” (not “æn uhl JE sik”). Pain reliever.

15. any. “EN ee” (not “EY nee”). One chosen  at random. 

16. applicable. “ÆP li kuh buhl” (not “ahp LEE kuh buhl”). Able to be applied; appropriate.

17. appreciate. “uh PREE shee eit” (not “AHP ree sheit”). To recognize the quality, significance, or magnitude of something or someone.

18. associate. “uh SOH shee eit” (not “AH soh sheit”). Colleague.

19. asthma. “AHZ muh” (not “AHST muh”). A respiratory illness often arising from allergies.

20. attaché. “ah tuh SHEI” (not “ah TAT chee”). One assigned to the staff of a diplomatic mission to serve in a given capacity.

21. attorney. “uh TURN nee” (not “uh TOR nee”). A legal agent qualified to act for persons in legal proceedings. 

22. awardee. “uh wor DEE” (not “uh WAHR dee”). One that receives an award.

23. bamboo. “bæm BOO” (not “BÆM boo”). Any of various woody mostly tall tropical grasses including some with strong hollow stems used for building, furniture, or utensils. 

24. beneficiary. “ben uh FISH ee er ee” (not “buh ne’ fish YAHR ee”). Receiver of benefits.

25. bicuspid. “bigh KAHS pid” (not “BIGH kuhs pid”). Having two points or cusps.

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11 Things Only Platonic Best Friends Understand

1. The general public doesn’t believe the type of friendship you have truly exists. They refuse to. You’re like a mythical Pokémon or a bag of decently priced pistachios – something rarely seen – if ever. Folks can’t fathom pure friendship with no extracurricular, ulterior motives, so you’ll hear theories about the secret romantic feelings one of you surely has for the other.

2. Real life isn’t a romantic comedy. There won’t suddenly be a 30-second montage of you two trying various outfits on for each other, giggling, getting stuck in the rain, sharing long-drawn-out eye contact, and kissing in aforementioned downpour with a Cyndi Lauper song playing in the background as you realize that you’re love. None of that happens in thoroughly platonic friendships.

3. Sarcasm and insults aren’t flirtation, but terms of endearment because that’s just how many of us treat our closest friends. The best ways to avoid actually saying nice things to the people you care about unromantically are cynicism & banter.

4. If your friendship began during childhood, before hitting puberty and being girl or boy crazy, it’s even more feasible that there’s zero physical attraction. Something about knowing someone since they were in diapers adds a pure, neighborly feel to the connection.

5. This friendship is likely a great source of advice, specifically in the dating department. No subjects are off limits and sugarcoating isn’t necessary, so you can get pure honesty, which is a hot commodity these days.

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10 Toxic Habits that Drain Your Energy

  1. Pretending like everything is OK when it isn’t. – Do you feel overwhelmed?  Do you feel like giving up?  There’s honestly no shame in it.  You are not a robot; and even if you were, you’d still need to stop for maintenance sometimes.  There’s no shame in admitting to yourself that you feel exhausted, doubtful, and low.  This is a natural part of being human.  The simple fact that you are aware of this means you are able to turn things around.  It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there’s no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
  2. Letting pain from the past devastate the present. – I am stronger because of the hard times, wiser because of my mistakes, and happier because I have known sadness.  The same is true for you.  Every difficult conversation you have had included someone who was teaching you something about yourself.  Every trying situation contains an opportunity for deeper self-reflection and learning.  Every irritant, heartbreak, frustration, disappointment, and fearful moment is a teacher.  Remember, nothing is as bad as it seems.  Nothing.  There’s a benefit and a blessing hidden in the folds of every experience and every outcome.  So don’t you dare give up on today because of the way things looked yesterday.  Don’t even think about it.  Every day is a new day to try again.  
  3. Believing that your best days are either in front of you or behind you. – You spend your whole life stuck in the labyrinth, thinking about how you’ll escape one day, and how incredible it will be, and imagining that pristine future keeps you going, but you never do it.  You just use the future to escape the present.  This is precisely what keeps so many of us stressed and unhappy.  The flipside is true as well – obsessing about the past.  What you need to accept is that there are only two days in the year that nothing can be done.  One is yesterday and the other is tomorrow.  So today, this moment, is the right time to love, to laugh, to work and to live boldly.  Yes, this moment needs your undivided attention, for this is the only time and place you are truly alive.

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20 Body Language Facts

80% of communication is really conveyed through body language. If you want to really know what someone is thinking or feeling, pay attention to the body language.

However, body language means different things in different contexts including culture.

Here is a list of 20 body languages and what they generally mean in Western culture:

Squinting - When people see what they don’t like, feel threatened, or are unhappy, they squint their eyes.

Arched Eyebrows - When we raise our eyebrows, it means we are contemplating what we’re listening to and that we’re mildly intrigued.

Direct Eye Contact - means we’re interested, we’re listening, and that we’re focused on you. It also conveys that we got nothing to hide.

Blinking too much - means we’re nervous or anxious

Hands the Church Steeple - fingertips touching, palms facing apart conveys we’re thinking and that we’re about to make a decision or move.

Arms Akimbo - planting your hands with your thumps backward on your hips and elbows out in a “V” shape displays dominance or authority.

Feet facing directly the other person - It shows that we’re focused on the other person.

Crossed feet (Standing or sitting) - When we cross our feet standing or sitting down, it shows that we’re comfortable or relaxed, but sometimes also defensive.

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